I AM BORDERLINE: Self-Regulation Project

This award winning, and powerful short film aims to reduce stigma about borderline personality disorder through spreading awareness. It was made for the Self-Regulation Project, whose mission is to create personal growth through increasing emotion regulation skills and self-understanding. It beautifully illustrates many of the daily struggles and triggers for those living with this diagnosis. The short film highlights common thoughts, emotions, and behaviors associated with borderline personality disorder. Take a look here to increase your knowledge about borderline personality disorder. 

Yes, It's Your Parents' Fault

Lately, attachment theory is getting heightened attention, due to its relevance in the explanation of our current relationship patterns. This article demonstrates how early caregiver relationships show increasing impact on our daily lives. Find out what type of attachment style you have by reading this piece by New York Times.

How Mindfulness Helps our Brains

Here's an article from The Week that explains how our brains often misinterpret cues we pick up on in the world, and how that causes us strife. Observing our thoughts in a few specific ways can help us misinterpret less and feel more calm. This is in many ways where mindfulness and psychotherapy meet. 

This article also has a number of helpful links for those wanting to learn more about meditating and mindfulness.

 

 

 

Three myths about Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is getting a lot of hype lately. Here is a blog post which addresses three myths about BPD: that it's a woman's disorder, that it can't be cured, and that it can't be diagnosed before age 18.

 

http://www.examiner.com/article/three-myths-about-bpd?utm_content=bufferd27f0&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

http://www.examiner.com/article/three-myths-about-bpd?utm_content=bufferd27f0&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

Masters of Love

From The Atlantic: Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.
 

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/?utm_source=atlfb

What truly makes us happy?

In this TED talk, psychiatrist Robert Waldinger describes the results of a study he directs at Harvard where they have tracked over 700 men for 75 years to find out what actually makes us happy. Not surprisingly, what they found is that good relationships keep us happy, and healthier. People who are more socially connected, they have found, are happier, physically healthier, and live longer. People who are more isolated than they want to be find they are less happy and their health declines earlier. Also, Waldinger says, it's not just the number of relationships, but the quality of relationships that matter. He reminds us that while we would all like a quick fix for happiness, relationships can be messy and take work, but it's that work that can make for a rewarding life.

Wedding Support!

Planning a wedding and preparing to get married can be an incredibly special and exciting time in an individual's and a couple's life. And if you're engaged and you pay attention to social media, Pinterest, wedding blogs, etc. (as it's hard not to), then it might look like everyone else who has ever been engaged or planned a wedding had an incredible time, the perfect celebration and loads of support. And perhaps some people really do have that experience for the most part.

The truth is, though, that planning a wedding and getting married is a time of major transition, and can easily highlight relationship difficulties, body image problems, family disappointments, and financial stresses. Navigating some of those issues would be difficult enough in and of themselves, but they greatly intensify when one or more of those things gets triggered while you're trying to plan and pay for a wedding, look and feel your best, please the important people around you, maintain the integrity of the relationship you have with your partner and perhaps even plan a honeymoon. Not to mention, sometimes the people you expect to support you are not able to give you what you need, creating a sense of disappointment and loss during a very important time. I often hear people say, "this was supposed to be the most exciting time in my life" or "I just thought I would be a lot happier." It's not unusual to have that experience, even if you are beyond excited to marry your partner.  

In therapy, we talk about how to obtain support, how to set boundaries, prioritizing what's most important to you, and processing the many complicated feelings that one experiences during this important life transition. We might also look for ways to find joy and meaning throughout this wonderful, intense, emotional process. 

Written by Lauren Harb, Psy.D.

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Transference

Here's a cute and clear video explaining the concept of transference - the idea that we transfer what we learned from our past relationships on to our current ones. "Working through" transference is a major part of psychotherapy because it helps us make decisions based on what's actually happening now, rather than what might have happened in the past.


A New History of Autism

While awareness of Autism and its broad spectrum has increased in the past decade, the road to understanding this diagnosis has been long and bumpy for clinicians and most importantly those directly impacted.  There is now a general consensus that autism is rooted in neurological and chemical processes in addition to a possible genetic component. In this New Yorker article, Steven Shapin provides a history of ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) from it's highly controversial causes to the development of ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) therapy.  Ultimately, Shapin challenges the reader to think beyond the "spectrum" labels, pathology, and disability.  

What is social anxiety?

Social anxiety is one of the most common disorders in our country - at some point in their lives, 13 out of 100 people will meet the criteria for social anxiety disorder. But what is it? 

While most of us get a bit anxious walking in to a full room, social anxiety becomes problematic when our normal need to be accepted goes a bit haywire and our fear of rejection takes over, causing panic and reclusion. 

Here is a link to an interview with Stefan G. Hofmann, the director of the Social Anxiety Program at Boston University, in which Hofmann describes more about the disorder and how to treat it:

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/10/what-is-social-anxiety/411556/



Between the World and Me, by Ta-Nehisi Coates

Ta-Nehisi Coates' latest book, Between the World and Me, National Book Award winner, is a raw, beautiful, and powerful letter from Coates to his fifteen year old son.  Coates' narrative offers a profound description of what its like to be a black man in America today; he describes feelings of powerless and rage that all of us can relate to, but that some of us have to contend with more than others on an every day basis. His honestly about his experience as a man and as a father is refreshing; yet in the truths he exposes so plainly, we are put in touch with a system in America that has been and is still painfully unjust. The humanity and art with which he describes all of this to us is touching. 

We also recommend the audiobook, which he reads himself. Here is a link to an article from Slate which describes the book well:

http://www.slate.com/articles/arts/books/2015/07/between_the_world_and_me_by_ta_nehisi_coates_reviewed.html

 

Attachment Theory

Attachment Theory is one of the most researched psychological theories. Here is a basic overview of the attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant) that most people seem to fall in to. Interestingly, there's a strong correlation between our style as children and as adults. Keep in mind that while humans love to categorize, in real life these styles are more complex than they're laid out here, and they can change from relationship to relationship..