Relationships

The Developing Mind

Relationships and Neuroscience

"This book helps to illuminate the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology, and explain how important our early relationships are in shaping who we have become, and the importance of meaningful relationships in continuing to shape our brain throughout the lifespan. Included in these important relationships is the therapeutic relationship, which can offer the space for a meaningful relationship to impact our life and help us experience the world differently - even as we grow into adulthood."

- Amanda Saragusti, MA

 

Mating In Captivity

Relationships and Identity

"Esther Perel talks about the tension in long term romantic relationships between the desire for closeness and the desire for mystery. This books explores our quest for  meaning, vitality, and renewal - a desire to feel fulfilled and alive, while also wanting security and groundedness. Despite living in an age of technology that promotes contact with others, we often find ourselves feeling disconnected and lacking experiences that lend themselves to a sense of meaning, vitality, and contentment."

- Amanda Saragusti, MA

 

The Normal One

Relationships, Siblings, Identity

"Psychologist Jeanne Safer draws from interviews, her clinical experience, and her personal experiences to explore what it’s like to grow up with a sibling who is “difficult.” I believe this book can be so validating for anyone who has grown up as the “normal” or “healthy” one in the family."

- Lauren Harb, PsyD 

 

The Dance of Intimacy

Relationships and Intimacy

"This is a book about changing our role in patterns that get in the way of intimacy. Lerner first aims to broaden and deepen your understanding of “intimacy,” as issues in relationships tend to arise when we mistake “intimacy” with being liked or approved. In a desperate desire to keep others close, this pursuit often leads us to lose our sense of selves and cause distance and turmoil in our relationships. Addressing this paradox, “The Dance of Intimacy” helps you learn to balance separateness (the “I”) and connectedness (the “we”), enhancing your capacity for rich, fulfilling, and long-lasting relationships."

-Negar Sarshar, MFT

 

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment

Attachment and Relationships

"We each have an "Attachment style" that seriously affects how we go about finding a mate and being in partnership. "Attached" is a user friendly book that explains the concept of attachment (there's even a quiz to help you determine your attachment style) and gives very readable examples of how they play out in relationships. My only advice is to take the book with a grain of salt - it oversimplifies the very complicated system of attachment in my opinion."

- Justin Shubert, PsyD

 

Eating

Intuitive Eating

Eating Disorders

"Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch is one of my favorite reads for anyone who has struggled with their relationship with food and eating. It really does help the reader reconnect with what they were born knowing—when they are hungry and when they are satiated. It is especially helpful in breaking away from all of the 'rules' people learn about eating that are mostly unhelpful and often about ignoring basic wants and needs."

- Lauren Harb, PsyD

 

Psychoanalysis

Advice Not Given: A Guide to Getting Over Yourself

Psychoanalysis

"Epstein integrates psychoanalysis with Buddhist ideas through stories from his work as a therapist and his personal life.  He outlines how change happens by relating to our thoughts, fears, and feelings with honesty and vulnerability."

- Kate Tepper, PsyD 

 

On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored

Compassion and Kindness

"Why can kindness feel so dangerous? Phillips observes from several angles our frustrations and our pleasures involving connection and compassion."

- Kate Tepper, PsyD

 

In Therapy

Therapeutic Process

"Find out what your therapist might actually think or what the process of therapy can be like with this book. The BBC Radio 4 explores the process of therapy by hiring actors to work with the 40-year-veteran psychotherapist, Orbach, to dramatize actual sessions. The results are in an intimate peek into therapy."

- Kate Tepper, PsyD

 

 

Neuroscience

Mindsight

Rational Thought, Neuroscience

"In Mindsight Dr. Siegel explains and teaches the capacity to see your own mind with awareness and compassion. Dr. Siegel lays out the fundamental mechanisms in the brain that are behind our thinking, feeling and behaving, weaving insights from contemporary brain science with practical applications for well being. For those loving rational thinking, Mindsight helps bridge the logic of the brain with the wisdom of the heart."

- Julien Fyhrie, MFT

 

Buddhist Psychology

The Wise Heart

Buddhist Psychology, Meditation

"The Wise Heart is engaging, powerful and practical. Integrating eastern contemplative practices with modern psychology, Jack Kornfield describes how to harness the power of Buddhist traditions for daily living. Kornfield reveals lessons from his challenging personal journey, connecting it with universal principles. Kornfield includes several guided practices at the end of chapters to help you engage with the material on an intimate level."

- Julien Fyhrie, MFT

 

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

Buddhism and Self-Growth

"When Things Fall Apart is a small book filled with lots of wisdom about how to be with ourselves through hard times. Chodron is a Buddhist monk who writes very clearly about how we constantly distract ourselves from what's inside. With a generous amount of compassion, Chodron directs us to stay with ourselves in the face of adversity."

- Justin Shubert,  PsyD